Parenting, part one

On this tape, Abraham talks about our parents, our children, and how we can have a more harmonious family life.

She says we have a tendency to look for others to credit or blame for our lives, so parents very often are the target of blame for their children.

"Any time you are standing in a place of blame or resentment or justification of why you are in a negative situation, you are in a place of lack, and thus your point of attraction is more and more negative as you focus your attention on blame."

She was emphatic. "To be in a place of blame is negative, so stop it."

"When you are in a place of lack, you attract more lack."

She encouraged each of us to create our own experience.

"You have no responsibility for that which anyone in this world chooses. Your only responsibility you have is to yourself."

She maintained that parents are not responsible for their children. "Parents have been encouraged to take upon themselves the responsibility of their children. That distortion is at the root of the trouble."

Instead, parents influence their children by their thoughts. "If a parent is in the place of lack, wants better for their child, and guides them from a place of lack, then the parent influences the child in a similar experience of lack."

"You can be a positive influence on others when you are in a place of positive emotion and centeredness. You are radiating / oozing / influencing no matter how you are thinking or feeling. You can control whether you are offering a positive or negative influence."

You know whether you are being a positive or negative influence by how you are feeling. "If you feel good, you are offering positive influence. Even if you do not speak, you are radiating what you are thinking / feeling. If you think about troubles, current or future, you are feeling lack and you are negatively influencing those around you. Your children are most affected in a negative way."

“All thought attracts. If a child is influenced in a certain way, it is possible that their whole life will be affected by that influence.”

"The father's and mother's role is to provide an avenue, a physical vehicle, through which energy can be expressed into the world."

"The perfect parent creates a physical body. This being is born. Then they see this child as an individual who is growing. The parent would offer an example of someone who is gloriously involved in this life experience, encouraging the child to find their expression in their own life experience."

"Normally a parent offers a child negative expectations. They want to protect their child, but in that negative offering they are planting the seeds of negative experience."

“As a parent you say it’s a big bad world and I’ll do this for you because you’re too small and don’t know enough. You inflame the child’s sense of lack and increase it away from their sense of who they really are.”

"There is value in looking for positive aspects in all that you interact with."

“You are an uplifter. You are a seeker of growth and joy. You have no greater responsibility to parent and child than anyone else on the planet.”

“Parents learn from their children and children learn from their parents. Every experience is giving you more knowledge whether you are consciously aware of it or not.”

“The inner being is stronger than physical influences. However you have agreed to attract to this physical body by what you are physically thinking - so you are more affected by the thoughts of you and those around you than by your inner being. You chose this. You wanted the benefits and experiences of other perspectives.”

“Every step of the way your inner being is wanting to lead you to role models. The physical you is vibrating according to the thought you are thinking in this conscious moment - if you feel joyful and happy it is your inner being’s way of guiding you toward who you really are.”

“If you are having negative feelings, it’s your inner being’s way of telling you that you are moving away from who you really are. Most of you suppress your inner guidance system and instead listen to those around you. If you have a negative emotion, something is not in harmony with your greater knowing.”

“Everything comes to you via transfer of thought. Everything comes from the Law of Attraction, which is through vibration.”

“Diseases are passed on by transfer of thought or expectation, not genetics. Whatever you are receiving, by virtue of the thoughts you are holding, you are co-creating the experience.”

“Most of you are so guarded, wanting to keep everyone in a place of having a perfect life - saying this should be like this. You focus on the lack of something you want, therefore you are attracting the experience you do not want. And you vote for a solution but you do this from a place of lack. It defies law for you to be able to attract something good when standing in a place of lack.”

“As you focus on blame of what happened 30 years ago, you feel bad, and you attract more negative experiences.”

“When you feel good about who you are and where you stand, you can attract positive experiences.”

“There are two motivations to action - positive drawing from what you want, or negative prodding from the negative repercussion of behavior.

“For a parent, visualize a well-running home with all doing what they are told. You will be inspired to words and actions that will evoke this from your family. Evoke from your positive wanting - harmony, happiness together. See yourself in your family unit, and concentrate on what you are doing.”

“Approach life from your eyes only, your guidance. Harmonize your thoughts and words and actions so you feel good, then you will be in harmony with yourself. Only then will you have the possibility of harmony with others.”

“Always there is a place of harmony within you in terms of how you are wanting to feel. Say “I want to feel good and I want to think, say and do things that harmonize with that which feels good to me.””

“You will realize you have more points of harmony with the family than of disharmony.”

“The one radiating the most emotion is the one in charge. The one with the most influence is the one who has focused most on their thoughts and has thus attracted other thoughts.”

“Give your dominant attention to feeling good. Don’t worry about the actions of others. Through this you will evoke more harmony from those who are around you.”