Freedom

Freedom is the acknowledgement that you may always choose your experience. You can choose negative or positive.

-- Abraham

Parenting, part two

On this tape, Abraham encouraged parents to notice the difference between guiding and controlling the life experience of their children. She says a parent’s goal is to foster the child into a new arena of life experience.

Every parent was a child and remembers the perspective of the child. “From your vision of being a child, you determined to be a better parent,” she said. You decided the things you were never going to do as a parent - “a prime example of making a decision from a place of lack.”

She said humans expect too much of themselves. “There is a tendancy to want to be already knowledgeable on all subjects - a new job, being a parent - you demand understanding of yourself before you have gained it. You can only learn through life experience.”

Tell the child “I do not have all the answers but I do have a certain understanding that life is supposed to be fun and an arena of new decisions to be made and adventures to have.” That is guiding, not controlling.

“Parents cover up their feelings of inferiority / incompletion by saying that ‘I know this’ or ‘I know that.’ At an early age the child sees the parent is not as smart as the parent thinks he is.”

“Acknowledge that you do not have all the answers, or know appropriate action, or know what to have or do, but you do know what you are wanting to feel - and if you do that you will continue on your path and decisions will come to you. You want your children to feel good and make choices from there.”

She helped us look at our relationships with our parents. “Your feelings about your parents -- you keep dragging by the hair that which you have experiencd in the past. The best way to have powerful positive relationship with anyone is to look for what you are wanting to see because that will evoke positive emotion within you.”

“The real question is how do you want to feel about your parents. Do you want to feel good or do you want to hold them as the scapegoat for everything going wrong in your life?”

“You are the common denominator in your life experience. You are the evoker of your experience with others. Let them off the hook. Let them out of the arena of responsibility. Let them be insignificant others for now - don’t care what they think or say about you.”

She says whatever your life experience as a child, you could have changed it. “We want you to understand that you had control but you didn’t know you did so you couldn’t use it.”

“Others want to sympathize and emphathize, say you are justified in your emotion because you had bad parents. We say even though you are justified, you are creating your experience by allowing it. Let your dominant intent be that the majority of the time you feel good. You chose to come forth to learn your strength and to learn that good and bad is in everything even your parents. As you focus on what you want to see, you will feel good.”

“The life experience that you evoke reflects what you are thinking.”

“When you allow negative emotions within you, you attract negative experiences to you. Spend time pivoting” when you notice negative emotions.

“When you have a negative experience it is of value because it is your inner guidance telling you what you want or do not want.”

“If you have had a painful experience in your past, release it to your past. If not it will remain in your now.”

“You have always been the attractor of your experience. Experiencing what you do not want helps you understand what you do want.”

Abraham suggests we can develop a new relationship with our parents no matter what our age. “First, as you go to bed, leave the past behind. When you get up, know that all day you will be looking for what you are wanting to see. Start ahead by wanting a good interaction. Then listen to guidance.”

If you are having an interaction with your parents and you feel bad, leave. “Then say I want a positive experience with them and I want to have guidance on how to have a good relationship with them.”

“You will be the inspiration to evoke positive emotion from others.”

“Different perspectives of a person evoke different emotions in others.”

“Thinking is the receiving of block of thoughts - not necessarily in words. Newborns think, and are very powerful receivers of blocks of thought. As a baby you are responding to the thoughts around you and your response creates your experience.”

“You know it’s hard to imaine a baby being smart enough to get what they want - but watch them.”

Abraham emphasized that we choose the clumps of thoughtforms and people we live with. We are not affected by everyone on the planet unless we choose to be. We choose what we want to be surrounded by.

“Have you had an experience where you could not endure any more and you said ‘I give up - you win.’ This is a powerful point: the point of no longer resisting. Your focus of resistance goes away and you say “I let it win and now it is gone.’ You don’t have to hit rock bottom before you pivot. You can pivot when you feel only a little bad.”

“You are creatures that are so much wanting to experience the positive, that even a little negative is discouraging.”

Love

Love is seeing positive aspects in someone.

What you want is to love -- the feeling of love coming out of you -- and if the other person evokes that from you then you think you are in love with them.

-- Abraham

Parenting, part one

On this tape, Abraham talks about our parents, our children, and how we can have a more harmonious family life.

She says we have a tendency to look for others to credit or blame for our lives, so parents very often are the target of blame for their children.

"Any time you are standing in a place of blame or resentment or justification of why you are in a negative situation, you are in a place of lack, and thus your point of attraction is more and more negative as you focus your attention on blame."

She was emphatic. "To be in a place of blame is negative, so stop it."

"When you are in a place of lack, you attract more lack."

She encouraged each of us to create our own experience.

"You have no responsibility for that which anyone in this world chooses. Your only responsibility you have is to yourself."

She maintained that parents are not responsible for their children. "Parents have been encouraged to take upon themselves the responsibility of their children. That distortion is at the root of the trouble."

Instead, parents influence their children by their thoughts. "If a parent is in the place of lack, wants better for their child, and guides them from a place of lack, then the parent influences the child in a similar experience of lack."

"You can be a positive influence on others when you are in a place of positive emotion and centeredness. You are radiating / oozing / influencing no matter how you are thinking or feeling. You can control whether you are offering a positive or negative influence."

You know whether you are being a positive or negative influence by how you are feeling. "If you feel good, you are offering positive influence. Even if you do not speak, you are radiating what you are thinking / feeling. If you think about troubles, current or future, you are feeling lack and you are negatively influencing those around you. Your children are most affected in a negative way."

“All thought attracts. If a child is influenced in a certain way, it is possible that their whole life will be affected by that influence.”

"The father's and mother's role is to provide an avenue, a physical vehicle, through which energy can be expressed into the world."

"The perfect parent creates a physical body. This being is born. Then they see this child as an individual who is growing. The parent would offer an example of someone who is gloriously involved in this life experience, encouraging the child to find their expression in their own life experience."

"Normally a parent offers a child negative expectations. They want to protect their child, but in that negative offering they are planting the seeds of negative experience."

“As a parent you say it’s a big bad world and I’ll do this for you because you’re too small and don’t know enough. You inflame the child’s sense of lack and increase it away from their sense of who they really are.”

"There is value in looking for positive aspects in all that you interact with."

“You are an uplifter. You are a seeker of growth and joy. You have no greater responsibility to parent and child than anyone else on the planet.”

“Parents learn from their children and children learn from their parents. Every experience is giving you more knowledge whether you are consciously aware of it or not.”

“The inner being is stronger than physical influences. However you have agreed to attract to this physical body by what you are physically thinking - so you are more affected by the thoughts of you and those around you than by your inner being. You chose this. You wanted the benefits and experiences of other perspectives.”

“Every step of the way your inner being is wanting to lead you to role models. The physical you is vibrating according to the thought you are thinking in this conscious moment - if you feel joyful and happy it is your inner being’s way of guiding you toward who you really are.”

“If you are having negative feelings, it’s your inner being’s way of telling you that you are moving away from who you really are. Most of you suppress your inner guidance system and instead listen to those around you. If you have a negative emotion, something is not in harmony with your greater knowing.”

“Everything comes to you via transfer of thought. Everything comes from the Law of Attraction, which is through vibration.”

“Diseases are passed on by transfer of thought or expectation, not genetics. Whatever you are receiving, by virtue of the thoughts you are holding, you are co-creating the experience.”

“Most of you are so guarded, wanting to keep everyone in a place of having a perfect life - saying this should be like this. You focus on the lack of something you want, therefore you are attracting the experience you do not want. And you vote for a solution but you do this from a place of lack. It defies law for you to be able to attract something good when standing in a place of lack.”

“As you focus on blame of what happened 30 years ago, you feel bad, and you attract more negative experiences.”

“When you feel good about who you are and where you stand, you can attract positive experiences.”

“There are two motivations to action - positive drawing from what you want, or negative prodding from the negative repercussion of behavior.

“For a parent, visualize a well-running home with all doing what they are told. You will be inspired to words and actions that will evoke this from your family. Evoke from your positive wanting - harmony, happiness together. See yourself in your family unit, and concentrate on what you are doing.”

“Approach life from your eyes only, your guidance. Harmonize your thoughts and words and actions so you feel good, then you will be in harmony with yourself. Only then will you have the possibility of harmony with others.”

“Always there is a place of harmony within you in terms of how you are wanting to feel. Say “I want to feel good and I want to think, say and do things that harmonize with that which feels good to me.””

“You will realize you have more points of harmony with the family than of disharmony.”

“The one radiating the most emotion is the one in charge. The one with the most influence is the one who has focused most on their thoughts and has thus attracted other thoughts.”

“Give your dominant attention to feeling good. Don’t worry about the actions of others. Through this you will evoke more harmony from those who are around you.”