Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Mating, part two


These are notes from the second side of the tape on Mating.

Abraham started with a simple process to find the perfect mate:

“Evoking the perfect mate comes when you are being the perfect mate. And you do this by saying: I am wanting to be joyful. I am wanting to find my joy.”

There is a difference between wanting a mate and needing a mate. “Needing is focused on lack, and it feels bad or painful. Wanting is focused on wanting. It comes from joy. It feels good and adventurous.”

Abraham reminded us that we can have a good relationship with everyone and anyone. “You have the power to evoke from them a relationship based on the freedom and joy you want because these probabilities already exist within them. Your experience with others will depend on what you evoke from them. Stop blaming the other for the mess of your relationship. You are the attractor of your life experience.”

She says we attract negative comments from others. “If the other says ‘I don’t like your fat stomach’ there is something you have awakened within yourself (or something you see in the other) that has evoked that reaction.”

“Before you can have a good relationship, you must have a good relationship with yourself. If you don’t like you, you won’t evoke others liking you.”

She asked what is the perfect mate? Her suggestion: “The perfect mate makes me feel best about me. The perfect mate evokes in me a feeling of well-being.”

“Evoke from one another what makes you feel good.”

She says that we tend to focus on the negative. “Your attention to flaw -- it gets bigger and bigger -- and then you say you cannot live with it. What would cause something to come forth in someone? Attention to it. You as co-creator must realize that your attention on what you don’t like in the other makes it bigger.”

“What is natural is a state of joy, growth and freedom."

“Seek that which is blissful and joyful to you, and you will never have trouble.”

“If you have someone who is always negative in your face, it is harder to be positive. But every night when you go to bed you separate from all that you have been attracting, and when you wake up you start anew with your attracting.”

“Love is seeing positive aspects in someone.”

“What you want is to love -- the feeling of love coming out of you -- and if the other person evokes that from you then you think you are in love with them.”

“Talk every day to yourself about what you are wanting. “Today I am going to get closer to my perfect mate.” You cannot see the path before you. You can just follow your positive emotion.”

“Identify what you want. Pay attention to how you feel. Follow your guidance. See the positive aspects in everyone you see. Be a selective sifter but don’t guard against anyone. See the positive of others, not the negative. Then you will attract it into your experience.”

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